# Pushing People Away Quiz > Standards, or an exit dug in advance? 90 seconds here names the habit that goes quiet the week it gets good, then one move for the week. Canonical: https://glissa.io/quiz/why-do-i-push-people-away Last updated: 26 October 2026 Standards, or an exit dug in advance? Answer for the last few people who got close. The questions start with what you want and end on the one you ended before he could. You leave with the pattern named, and one small dare to stay a little longer. ![A woman sitting on the edge of a bed in the evening, holding a folded jumper over a half-open weekend bag, deciding whether to pack it](https://glissa.io/assets/blog/the-week-it-got-good.webp) - **Answer for the ones who got close** Easy questions first. Near the end, the week it got good and you went quiet. - **See what sends you to the exit** Your answers lean toward one pattern. It comes back named, with how often. - **Stay for one dare** Written from that pattern, and small enough to do this week. ## Standards, or an exit dug in advance? The test is whether the fault was there before he got close. Standards are a no to a man who is wrong for you. Pushing people away is what happens when the no arrives the week he says he is sure. Your friends call it standards, and from outside you cannot tell the two apart. From inside, one leaves you free. The other has you finding a fault in something you were happy with 2 days ago. - The week it got good is the week you went quiet - A kind text made your shoulders climb - 3 things ended before anyone could end them ![A woman walking away down a hallway, a lit door standing open behind her](https://glissa.io/assets/blog/q-pushing-away.webp) ## You may be leaving more than the ones who got close Pulling away first is one of 11 patterns that make you shrink, out of reach of anything that could hurt. Glissa is an inner glow up for women, built around dropping them. Your answers here are read against all 11. - **People pleasing** Said yes to keep things light - **Not saying what you think** Kept the real reason to yourself - **Downplaying** Called it nothing serious, to everyone - **Being everyone’s therapist** Listened to his past, shared none of yours - **Hyper-independence** Refused help that would mean owing him - **Losing yourself** Disappeared into him, then bolted - **Anxious attachment** Took the slow reply as proof - **Pulling away first** Found a fault the week he said he was sure - **Accepting breadcrumbs** Chose the one who never got close - **Peace feels boring** Called the kind one boring - **Performing** Seemed fine, then deleted his number **Find out why you leave when it gets good** Go through the last few people who got close. You come away with the pattern named and a dare for this week. ## You leave with a name, and the dares start small This page names the pattern and leaves the size out of it. One sitting cannot tell a bad run of dates from years of leaving first. In the app you check in for about 30 seconds a day and see which pattern was behind what happened. Each week brings one dare from your own answers. The first are sized for a stranger or a text, and the ones with people close to you come later. ![Woman in a quiet kitchen setting her phone face down on the counter, a kettle on the stove behind her](https://glissa.io/assets/blog/an-ordinary-tuesday.webp) ## The glow up that starts on the inside Get back the parts of you that you filed down to keep everyone else comfortable. 30 seconds a day, all the way back to 100% and past it. $4.99 a month, billed as $59.99 a year ## Questions **Is this quiz a real test?** No. It cannot tell you whether he was right for you, and it diagnoses nothing. It names which of 11 patterns your answers chose most. **Do you keep my answers?** Your answers stay in this tab. Anything you tap in the app stays on your phone, and the vent is read by a model only once you say yes. **Where is the score?** A single sitting can name the pattern but cannot measure it. Any percentage would be invented. You get that number, how much of you is showing, in the app. **What do I get at the end?** The pattern you picked most, named, and how often it came up. 2 more sit under it, unnamed. Then a dare, and you pick which day. ## Keep reading [All of it →](https://glissa.io/blog) - [Why Do I Push People Away When It Gets Good? 7 Small Steps to Stop Pulling Away](https://glissa.io/blog/why-do-i-push-people-away): He sends a kind text or makes a plan, and you want to leave. Why you push people away when it gets good, and 7 small steps to stop. - [6 Best Self Improvement Apps for Women in 2026](https://glissa.io/blog/best-self-improvement-apps-for-women): A self-care pet, a routine coach, 2 meditation apps, a habit game and an inner glow up, ranked on what feels different by week 4. - [30 Shadow Work Prompts, and What to Do With the Answers](https://glissa.io/blog/shadow-work-prompts): Shadow work prompts sorted by habit, each about one real moment from your week, and the one small move to make with your answers.