People Pleasing Quiz
Am I a people pleaser, or just nice?
Tap through the yeses you gave this month. The early questions are easy. The last ones reach the sentence you have never said to anyone. You leave with the pattern behind your yes named, and one small dare for this week.
- Start with what you wantThat part is easy. Near the end, the yes that left your mouth before they finished asking.
- See what sat behind the yesThe pattern your answers kept choosing comes back named, with how often it came up.
- Leave with one small dareWritten from that pattern, and small enough to do by the weekend.
Your dare for this week
Which day are you doing it?
Keep your yes for the things you want
Every dare you do gives a piece of you back. The first no goes to a stranger or a text, and the ones with family come later.
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Am I a people pleaser, or just a nice person?
The test is whether a no was available. Kindness is choosing to help when you could have declined. People pleasing is what happens when declining never felt like an option.
Seen from across the room, the two look the same, so nobody has pointed it out. From inside, one leaves you warm. The other has you agreeing straight away and resenting it days later.
- The yes arrives before you have decided anything
- A no needs a reason attached, and if they answer the reason you fold
- Nobody close to you could say what you actually think about much
The yes arrives before you have decided anything
Your yes may not be the pattern taking the most
People pleasing is one of 11 patterns that make you shrink. Glissa is the inner glow up for dropping them, one at a time. Your answers are read against every one, so you find out which takes the most.
People pleasingSaid yes before they finished asking
Not saying what you thinkAgreed in the meeting, argued in the car
DownplayingCalled the thing you made no big deal
Being everyone’s therapistListened to everyone and told nobody
Hyper-independenceCarried it alone so you owed nobody
Losing yourselfLiked what they liked, and forgot the rest
Anxious attachmentRead a short reply as a verdict
Pulling away firstWent quiet the week it got close
Accepting breadcrumbsTook a 2-word text as a plan
Peace feels boringCalled a calm week dull
PerformingFine in public, wrecked in the car
Tap through this month. You leave knowing which pattern your yes belongs to, and what to try first.
Show me the one I keep pickingYou leave with a name here and your number in the app
This page names the pattern and stops there. One sitting cannot tell a hard month from a yes you have given since school, so it does not guess at a size.
In the app you check in each day, about 30 seconds of tapping what happened, and you see which pattern was behind the yes. You get a number for how much of you is showing, and one dare a week written from your own answers.
The glow up that starts on the inside
Get back the parts of you that you filed down to keep everyone else comfortable. 30 seconds a day, all the way back to 100% and past it.
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Is this quiz a real test?
No. It is not a clinical test and it diagnoses nothing. It shows which of 11 patterns came up most in what you picked, and gives you a dare for the week.
Do you keep my answers?
Your answers stay in this tab and go no further. In the app, what you tap lives on your phone.
Why do I not get a percentage?
One sitting can name a pattern and cannot size it. A 12% or a 94% here would be made up. Your number for how much of you is showing lives in the app.
What happens at the end?
You see the pattern your answers kept choosing, how often it came up, and the line it is known by. 2 more sit under it with their names held back. Then one dare, and you pick the day you will do it.
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