Am I a people pleaser?

Seven questions, about ninety seconds. Nothing is saved and nothing is sent.

01What is people pleasing?

People pleasing is the habit of managing other people's comfort at your own cost. The yes arrives before the thought does. Apologies come out for things that were never yours. An opinion softens mid-sentence because of the look on someone's face. It is learned, usually early, and it comes off the same way it went on.

People pleasing rarely travels alone. The woman who cannot say no is often the same one who never asks for help, makes what she wants sound like nothing, and waits months on someone who will not say what they are. Those are four separate habits with four separate fixes, so the quiz names the one taking the most from you, and the app names all four.

02Signs you are a people pleaser

• The yes is out of your mouth before you have checked your week.
• Apologies for things that were never yours to apologise for.
• A message sits on read, because saying no is harder than saying nothing.
• Everybody tells you things. Nobody asks how you are.
• You know exactly what you think, and a softer version comes out.
• Four seconds of boundary, then a whole evening of guilt about it.

The other side of that list is quieter than most people expect. One evening where you said the smaller true thing and nothing happened. Then another one, and the size of the habit comes down by a bit.

03Is this quiz a diagnosis?

No. This is a self-report, which means it is worth exactly what your honesty is worth, and it is not therapy or an assessment. It puts a number on something you already suspect and gives the habit a name. If you are in crisis, the app shows you who to call, and it means it.

04What happens to my answers?

Nothing. The quiz runs in your browser, no answer is sent anywhere, nothing is stored, and there is no email box to fill in before you see your number. Reload the page and it is gone.

05How is the number worked out?

Seven questions put you somewhere between 53 and 65, and every habit you name pushes you toward the lower end. That is deliberate. Naming more is the only honest way a self-report can move, so the number rewards recognising yourself. Performing well on it is the one way to learn nothing at all. The app asks the same seven, then builds your four habits from what you picked and puts a size on each, and those sizes are what you watch afterwards.