The Patterns That Cost You, and How You Take Yourself Back
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Every post here is about one of the 11 patterns that make you shrink. In Glissa you drop them, one small dare a week.
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Journaling
30 Shadow Work Prompts, and What to Do With the Answers
Shadow work prompts sorted by habit, each about one real moment from your week, and the one small move to make with your answers.
Sophie Klein · 8 min read
Finding a therapist
Can’t Afford Therapy? 6 Ways to Get Help for Less
Start with what is free, then ask about sliding scales. 6 ways to get help for less than one private session, each with its price and its trade-off.
Nadia Ferreira · 8 min read
People pleasing
Eldest Daughter Syndrome: 8 Signs, and How to Let Others Help
Eldest daughter syndrome is what growing up as the family’s second parent leaves behind. 8 signs it shaped you, and how to let others help.
Kayleigh Brennan · 8 min read
People pleasing
How to Stop Caring What People Think: 7 Steps to Care a Little Less
Most people notice you far less than you think, and like you more. 7 small steps to care a little less about what they think.
Meg Turner · 7 min read
People pleasing
Is People Pleasing a Trauma Response? 5 Signs, and 5 Steps to Unlearn It
People pleasing can start as a way to stay safe around someone whose mood decided the day. 5 signs yours did, and 5 steps to unlearn it.
Hannah Moore · 7 min read
People pleasing
People Pleasing and Anxiety: Why No Feels Scary, and 5 Ways to Calm It
Saying no can set off the same alarm as real danger. Why people pleasing and anxiety feed each other, and 5 ways to calm it before you answer.
Rosa Tan · 7 min read
People pleasing
What Is a People Pleaser? The Meaning, 9 Signs, and a 90-Second Test
A people pleaser puts other people’s wants ahead of her own and finds no hard to say. The meaning, 9 signs, and a 90-second test.
Nadia Ferreira · 7 min read
People pleasing
Why Am I a People Pleaser? Where It Starts, and How to Unlearn It
People pleasing usually starts as a way to stay safe or loved. The 5 places it comes from, why it keeps going, and how to unlearn it.
Meg Turner · 8 min read
People pleasing
Recovering People Pleaser: What Changes in the First 30 Days
You know you do it and you still say yes on reflex. What the first 30 days of recovering from people pleasing look like, week by week.
Kayleigh Brennan · 7 min read
People pleasing
How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty: 7 Short Ways to Say It
Someone asks for a favour and the yes is out before you decide. 7 short ways to say no, and a plan for the guilt that comes after.
Hannah Moore · 8 min read
People pleasing
7 Best Apps for People Pleasers in 2026
7 apps that say they help people pleasers, held to what changes by week 9. Glissa comes first, and the other 6 are the ones women ask about.
Kayleigh Brennan · 8 min read
People pleasing
People Pleasing Statistics 2026: 34 Numbers, Every One With Its Source
Every number links to the study, the thread or the tool it came from, with a date. Quote them. The source is the point.
Meg Turner · 7 min read
Situationships
How to Get Over a Situationship: A 7-Day Plan for When It Never Officially Ended
4 months, no label, and his hoodie is still in your back seat. The ending nobody handed you, and the first 7 days, one move a day.
Rosa Tan · 9 min read
Losing yourself
How to Find Yourself Again Without Leaving Him: Spot 9 Signs, Then Take 7 Small Steps
Someone asks what music you are into, and you pause. Spot the 9 signs of losing yourself in a relationship, then take one small step a week.
Hannah Moore · 9 min read
Pushing people away
Why Do I Push People Away When It Gets Good? 7 Small Steps to Stop Pulling Away
He sends a kind text or makes a plan, and you want to leave. Why you push people away when it gets good, and 7 small steps to stop.
Nadia Ferreira · 9 min read
Hyper-independence
Is Hyper-Independence a Trauma Response? 6 Signs, and 7 Steps to Unlearn It
You moved house alone, even though friends offered to help. Spot the 6 signs of hyper-independence, then take 7 small steps to unlearn it, one a week.
Sophie Klein · 9 min read
Fawn response
The Fawn Response: Why You Laughed First
His friend made a joke about you at dinner, and you laughed first. The fourth stress response looks like good manners, and it starts in the 3 seconds before you answer.
Meg Turner · 9 min read
Breadcrumbing
What Is Breadcrumbing? 7 Steps to Stop Waiting for His Texts
Breadcrumbing is small bits of attention with no real plans behind them. Why it hooks you, and 7 steps to stop waiting for his texts.
Kayleigh Brennan · 9 min read
Anxious attachment
Anxious Attachment: How to Survive the Hour After He Leaves You on Read
He read it at 2pm and you have reread your own message for tone since. What the wait does to you, and the one thing to do with the next hour.
Rosa Tan · 9 min read
People pleasing
How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
The yes is a prediction about what happens if you don’t say it. 7 steps that test the prediction, in the order that works.
Sophie Klein · 9 min read
Journaling
Does Journaling Actually Work?
Journals, workbooks, therapy, and how much of you comes back for what each one takes. Most do not survive week 2.
Nadia Ferreira · 9 min read
Start getting the rest of you back.
You see which pattern takes the most of you, and you start with one small dare.