Trauma Response Quiz
Fight, flight, freeze, or the one that looks like manners?
Answer for the rooms you were in this month. It opens on what you want and closes on the version of you nobody has met. You leave with the pattern named, and one small dare to let a little more of that version show.
- Answer for the rooms you kept easyThe start is simple. The end asks about the laugh that came before the joke landed.
- See what the manners are coveringOne pattern comes out on top of your answers, named, with its count.
- Leave with one small dareWritten from that pattern, and sized to try by the weekend.
Something small for this week
Which day are you doing it?
Show one room a little more of you
Each dare you do brings a piece of you back. You start with a stranger or a text, and the ones with family come later.
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Fawn, or just good manners?
The test is whether you could have taken the water. Manners is choosing to be easy when you could have been otherwise. Fawn is what happens when otherwise never felt safe.
At a dinner table the two look alike, which is why people call you easy to be around. From inside, one leaves you at your own pitch. The other has you laughing first at dinner and hoarse in the car.
- The laugh arrived before the joke about you had landed
- You said no thank you to something you wanted
- Mature for your age, they said, and you had to be
The laugh arrived before the joke about you had landed
You may be keeping more than the room easy
Fawning shows up here as performing, one of 11 patterns that make you shrink to fit the room. Glissa is the inner glow up that helps you put them down. Your answers are read against all 11, and the heaviest is named.
People pleasingSaid sorry when someone bumped into you
Not saying what you thinkNodded at dinner, disagreed in the car
DownplayingCalled a hard childhood fine
Being everyone’s therapistBecame the calm one at 12
Hyper-independenceLearned early to need nothing
Losing yourselfBecame whoever the room needed
Anxious attachmentWatched faces for the first sign of trouble
Pulling away firstLeft the party before anyone tired of you
Accepting breadcrumbsFelt grateful for the bare minimum
Peace feels boringWaited for the calm to break
PerformingLaughed first, went hoarse later
Answer for this month. You come away with the pattern named and one small dare.
Show me the one I keep pickingYou get the name today and your number in the app
This page names the pattern and puts no size on it. One sitting cannot tell a stressful month from manners you learned as a child to stay safe.
In the app each check-in takes about 30 seconds of tapping what happened, and you see which pattern was behind it. A number says how much of you is showing. Each week you get one dare, written from your own answers.
The glow up that starts on the inside
Get back the parts of you that you filed down to keep everyone else comfortable. 30 seconds a day, all the way back to 100% and past it.
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Is this a real trauma test?
No. It cannot diagnose trauma or tell you what happened to you. It points to which of 11 patterns came up most in your answers. If this brings up a lot, take it to a therapist.
Do you keep my answers?
They stay in this tab. In the app, your taps live on your phone.
Why don’t I get a number?
One sitting can name the pattern and cannot size it. A percentage here would be made up. The number for how much of you is showing lives in the app.
What happens at the end?
You get the pattern that came up most, its line and how often you picked it. 2 more sit under it with their words hidden. Then one dare, and you choose a day.
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